the adventures of an extroverted wallflower

Morgan Freeman Sharing His Life-Lessons

2012-01-22T23:07:00.001-05:00

For the first time, I watched Oprah Presents Master Class. I watched it because Morgan Freeman was one of the television teachers that taught me how to read, when he played Easy Reader on The Electric Company.

Morgan has also blew me away in many of his movies with his amazing performances. Therefore, I wanted to see what Morgan has learned along his journey.

Here are the bullet points. Many of his lessons I've heard or learned before, so I felt I got confirmations.

If you have a chance watch the repeat of this episode to get these lessons within the context of his life.

nurture your natural gifts
find your safe haven
sometimes you have to change roads....when you have made your choice providence is your guide
just keep going
wisdom can come from unlikely places
declare who you are
make the best of every situation
follow your own muse
hold on to your principles
be irreplaceable
create a lasting partnership
you have to listen
challenge your courage
the universe is unfolding as it should...be at peace with yourself, you are as important as the stars

Bobby Deen Cleaning Up Mama's Mess

2012-01-19T21:21:00.001-05:00

I find Bobby so sexy.

Yesterday, I saw Bobby Deen's show Not My Mama's Meals. In this show Bobby retools his famous mama's, Paula Deen, classic recipes in order to bring down calories and fat.

I gagged when Bobby revealed that his mother's Shrimp and Grits dish has over 1,000 calories and 40 grams of fat. These numbers are like Burger King numbers.

Paula recently announced she has adult onset type 2 diabetes. Duh! She also put out that she always talked about eating her food in moderation. Yeah right! If she can't do it, most of her viewers can't do it.

How that cutie Bobby managed to survive a childhood of Paula's kinda cooking is a miracle.

BTW, a lot of folks have called Paula out on her style of cooking before and now after her announcement of her living with diabetes. Here is a link to Renee's take on the whole thing.

Downton Abbey Returns!

2012-01-08T15:14:00.000-05:00

I found myself squealing this morning when I remembered one of my favorite shows returns to tv tonight. I know I'm on the late train with this, but I am addicted to Downton Abbey. Tonight season two of this British novela begins.

This show has everything you want, great actors, interesting characters, and scandals for your nerves. If you haven't seen it, please look for it. You won't be disappointed.

Once again please refrain from calling or texting between 9-11 pm. You know who you are.

Watch Downton Abbey 2: The Critics Can't Stop Talking on PBS. See more from Masterpiece.

P.R. All-Stars. Squeeeeal!

2012-01-05T20:03:00.002-05:00

This is what I will be all wrapped up with this evening. Please refrain from calling or texting. You know who you are.

I'm Home Again

2011-12-29T15:12:00.000-05:00

Hola good people, yours truly is in NYC right now! I'm here for a couple of days and I'm just taking it all in and enjoying myself. It's been awhile since I visited, and here are some current highlights:

- While I'm standing outside Rocco's Pastry on Hudson, I over hear a man in his sixties talking to a friend. The man says, "My concern is that in the recordings of the wiretap, it will come out that I was unfaithful to my wife with several women. Should I tell this to my lawyer?" The man than listed for several minutes and replied, "So basically you are saying honesty is the best policy." I guess better late than never.

- Fran Liebowitz is walking in front of my sister and me. Wow, she walks real butch. Slowly a motorcycle pulls up to the corner as we are crossing the street. The rider cranks on the accelerator and makes the hog roar. Fran then flips him the middle finger and keeps on walking. Like I said, she rolls real butch.

- I'm here with Gino and I'm meeting other dog owners. I met a lovely woman that was walking a tiny poodle that was rescued from a puppy mill. The poor dog kept spinning in circles, it seems she was caged most of her life and tends to spin around a lot. She also keep offering her rear end to Gino, she was put to have litters several times over during the past five years. May puppy mill owners burn in fucking hell, and shame on the people that buys dogs from those mills.

Merry Christmas To All

2011-12-25T12:15:00.000-05:00

I wish you all peace and joy this holiday season. May the new year bring you not only what you want in life, but also what you need.

Remember to live, love, learn and pass it on!

The Line Between Student and Teacher Relationships

2011-12-18T11:16:00.000-05:00

I was gagging as I read this article in the Times about school districts having to implement policies restricting teachers from getting connected with their students through social networks and texting.

I was very surprised to see that some grown folks don't use their common sense in this situation. At what point does it make sense to "friend" a student of yours and invite him or her into your personal life, via your online presence?

Children don't really know boundaries unless you clearly set some. Over the years students have tried to blur the line between our teacher and student relationship. I quickly help them course correct.

This is how I handle this situation with my students:

Student: "Mr. S do you have a facebook page?"
Mr. S: "No. Facebook is for you young folks."

This prevents a student from looking for me on Facebook and requesting I "friend" him or her.

Student: "Mr. S do you tweet."
Mr. S: "No. Tweeter is for you young folks."

I actually don't tweet.

I do leave room for students to interact with me on a somewhat social level because at times they will need an adult to confide in if they are experiencing something heavy like bullying or abuse.

Moreover, we see each other five days a week for hours, and we are human beings that develop connections to one another.

However, I am not their father or friend. And, my students are not my kids.

When students open up to me about any problems they were having, I listened compassionately and guided them to the right person in that school that could help them. In other words I respond as a professional.

With that said, there are exceptions to this rule. I have a handful of "friends" on Facebook that were my former students from when I taught in high school.

My rule was modified to included any student that was 18 or older and attending college, and the relationship will be as mentor/mentee.

Oh and it is by invitation only to students that displayed a mutual respect and a certain level of maturity.

Peter Pan Syndrome In Effect

2011-12-11T01:11:00.001-05:00

Quidditch has gone muggle. Well, at least they are getting more of a workout if they had played baseball.

I Went All Lemming On Myself

2011-12-06T20:02:00.001-05:00

I gave into peer pressure and got a smartphone. I did get the phone at an extremely discounted price, but my monthly cost went up $20. I took the bait and got hooked.

I'm curious to see if after a few weeks if I feel at ease with joining the herd. BTW, my students don't laugh anymore when they see my cell phone.

A Virtual Fashion Magazine Moment

2011-11-26T14:25:00.001-05:00

I realized today that is has been years since I indulged in flipping through fashion magazines.

My Titi Maria always had Vogue, Elle and GQ on her coffee table. She loved fashion, and was quite stylish on a very tight budget.

I forgot how much I would love looking at fashion magazines and imagining a story to go along with the editorials. Fashion magazines were one of the things that provided me with moments to escape a hard-knock-life childhood.

In my teens I decided to go to the High School of Fashion Industries. It was very daring on my part because most of my friends and family stayed in Brooklyn for high school, however, I was determined to take the L train to Manhattan and become part of the fashion world.

I loved my years at Fashion High, but I soon learned I didn't have the discipline nor patience for crafting garments. I did learn my true talents would require me to pursue other dreams. Yet, to this day I still remain an admirer of great fashion and design.

I also still love strong and brilliant fashion editorial work. Here are images that fueled my imagination during the morning. The images are courtesy of VMan Magazine, and the captions came from my twisted mind.

The Contessa kept her most valuable possessions close to her.

Very Krafty how they Werked this. All aboard for the Trans Europe Express.

Watersports

I'm pretty mama.

A High-Fashion X-Man

Bring back the Pompadour!

Oh Johnny! Why you go and fuck up the way you did?
Stay off the drinking and drugging so you can return back into fashion.

Men are dogs! Genius styling at this shoot.

Happy Thanksgiving

2011-11-24T14:53:00.001-05:00

I was really good this year and handled my time well while preparing my goodies for the annual potluck Thanksgiving dinner.

My collard greens are tender and tasty, my sweet potato puree is silky with a sweet and savory thing going on.

The only big ticket item waiting to be done is the ham which is seasoned with spicy mustard, brown sugar and a bit of curry powder.

I'm so glad I only have to transport my dishes across the street!

Random Thoughts

2011-11-22T23:15:00.001-05:00

- Politicians are fucking whores. The more things change, the more they stay the same. I'm feeling so over it, but I remind myself I have to stay engaged and let my voice be heard.

- Dancing With The Stars celebrates the GLBTQ community in the biggest way. I saw a transgendered man dance with a women. Then, a big queen took a turn with another man. This show was brought to you by a Disney owned company. Everyone say "Hallelujah, Tinkerbell!"

- Local news remains a freak show. Midway into the broadcast they show a man pulling a school bus for a local school. I'm sure next will see a segment on something scary involving the holiday season.

- I saw on doc on PBS about a man that spent a year raising wild turkeys from the moment they came out the egg. He said they taught him, "when we live in the past or think of the future we betray the present." Once again we are reminded the age old advice to live in the present.

Another Music Memory

2011-11-10T00:16:00.002-05:00

When Adam Sandler came on Letterman tonight to promote his new movie Jack and Jill, they played a few seconds of this song. I was reminded how much I loved this song as a kid.

It's true that Ray Parker Jr. was better than the theme to Ghostbusters.

Heavy D and Smokin' Joe Frazier Have Their Turn At Metamorphosis

2011-11-08T19:26:00.003-05:00

Two legendary men have gone on to see what is on the other side. Thank you for letting your light shine.

Smokin' Joe Frazier (click here for more)

Heavy D (click here for more)

The Celesta

2011-11-01T22:52:00.002-04:00

McQueen Lives On

2011-10-30T21:23:00.003-04:00

It looks like McQueen's house is in good hands.

Diving for McQueen on Nowness.com.

You and I Let This Happen

2011-10-30T00:16:00.003-04:00

We are living, as always, in a time when We reap what we sowed and allowed to bloom.

Nerd-Comedy Rocks!

2011-10-29T00:36:00.000-04:00

Myq Kaplan Stand-Up Comedy from Myq Kaplan on Vimeo.

Occupy Water Coolers

2011-10-26T00:20:00.000-04:00

Good people, fly your freak flag at the water cooler. The folks that are occupying need us to explain, the reason behind this action.

A Music Man

2011-10-20T21:17:00.000-04:00

V posted a classic Chic tune on his blog today. It reminded me about the brilliance of Nile Rodgers.

Nile Rodgers is legendary within the world of music producers. Whether it was his work with Diana Ross, Cyndi Lauper, Duran Duran Madonna, David Bowie, or his own band Chic, there is a track Nile birthed that made you feel the groove.

Nile has written an autobiography that should be out, if not now, any minute now. I got a taste of his story in the NYT. Click here for a look into his early childhood. It was so not what I expected, which made it very interesting.

I'm gonna hunt down this book. I want to know more about his journey.

For The Passionate People At OWS

2011-10-17T23:13:00.001-04:00

Kurt Vonnegut has been my mentor, via text printed on page, for many years. I offer this quote as a caution to the good people, doing the good work focused on bringing justice to this planet:

"During the Vietnam War, which lasted longer than any war we’ve ever been in—and which we lost—every respectable artist in this country was against the war. It was like a laser beam. We were all aimed in the same direction. The power of this weapon turns out to be that of a custard pie dropped from a stepladder six feet high."

Click here for the full interview of a human being that served in war, and was able to hold on to his humanity.

Hot Pink Mussy Power

2011-10-09T01:34:00.000-04:00

There will be moments in life when you have to show your hot pink, and let it make the people gag. Look and learn.

BTW, the divas in hot pink won! In the words of a fan, "Ya ate it!"

Bowie On My Brain

2011-10-09T01:21:00.000-04:00

I so dig a song from David Bowie.

At his best David eats music's pussy, or rims, then fucks it's hole, while offering his own. This creator of music is made by a lover of both men and women.

I offer this sample of music by Bowie, that has for many years, left me pleased.

The song also left me wondering if Iman's husband likes to be fisted. If he does like an aryan fist up his mussy, I say, "Do you!'

Funny how secrets travel,I'd start to believe,if I were to bleed

Thin skies, the man chains his hands held high

Cruise me blondCruise me babe

A blond belief beyond beyond beyond

No return, No return

I'm deranged

Deranged my love

I'm deranged down, down, down

So cruise me babe cruise me baby beyond

And the rain sets in. It's the angel-man

I'm deranged

Cruise me, cruise me, cruise me, baby

The clutch of life and the fist of love

Over your head

Big deal Salaam

Be real deranged tonight

Before we reelI'm deranged

And the rain sets inIt's the angel-man

I'm deranged

And the rain sets inIt's the angel-man

I'm deranged

Cruise me, cruise me, cruise me, baby

Show Business Is Fierce...Not In A Good Way

2011-10-05T00:38:00.000-04:00

Wow, Sean Young from Blade Runner, and other movies, just pimped herself on David Letterman's show tonight. She was pleading for the folks in control, to hire her for something, anything, you name it. She even let them show a video of her in a Catwoman outfit screaming, "I'm not crazy!" In the words of Dave Chapelle, "Show business turns us into whores."

Proud Alumnus of P.S. 123

2011-10-02T13:07:00.000-04:00

Class 2-1 Mrs. Bello

Class 3-1 Ms. Goldberg
So I came across these class pictures posted by a former classmate of mine. I actually still have the pictures, but never thought to scan them. Take a look and see if you can find me.

I'm very grateful for the public education I received at dear old P.S. 123, in Brooklyn. I had very dedicated teachers and felt like I could accomplish anything because of their encouragement.

Mrs. Bello helped me fall in love with writing. She always encouraged me to put my thoughts onto paper. Thank you Mrs. Bello.

Ms. Goldberg opened my mind to beautiful writing when she read to the class Charlotte' Web. The way she gave life to the words in the book remains a vivid memory. Thank you Ms. Goldberg.

Mrs. Bello and Ms. Goldberg are my role models and the standard I strive for as a teacher.

I Can Now Watch The Final Minutes of 60 Minutes

2011-09-30T00:29:00.000-04:00

Andy Rooney is making his last appearance on 60 Minutes this Sunday. Let me say that in the past 20 years of watching 60 Minutes, Andy has consistently been the reason why I change the channel during the final moments of the program.

Trust me when I say I gave him a chance to make me "get it." However, I have never found him funny, clever, insightful, witty, or worth watching. I've even read one of his books in an effort to find his charm.

You've been a lucky fuck Andy. You better thank god almighty that someone high up on the CBS totem pole wanted to see and hear you.

Repainting Virtual World, Real World Next

2011-09-25T00:03:00.001-04:00

Okay, so a high-riding bitch needed a change of scenery. I know I went vibrant, after not so vibrant, in terms of color scheme. Por favor, pardon the color shock.

Good people, let us adapt together.

The Ying and Yang of Teaching 9

2011-09-20T23:54:00.001-04:00

This documentary on PBS about four teachers, from the Philippines, turned me out.

Good people, please look for it on your local TV listings and learn from it.

Watch the full episode. See more POV.

Lady Gaga Making Amends

2011-09-19T23:57:00.000-04:00

Some of this jazz, with acoustic thrown in in her last CD, would have kept Lady Gaga from being banned on the jukeboxes of east village gay bars. After tremendous success go back to your roots.

Dolphins Rock!

2011-09-19T20:28:00.002-04:00

I Got Cooties!

2011-09-17T22:53:00.001-04:00

I bought the sanitizing wipes and hand gel, yet my little K-4 students gave me my first cold!

I would be upset, but they are so adorable and eager to learn. I forgive them. I'll just have to go from washing my hands three times a day, to six.

Ten Years Later....

2011-09-11T15:40:00.001-04:00

Six years after 9/11 I had posted my thoughts at the time. Most of what I wrote about still remains part of my memories and thoughts from that day.

However, today I feel a sadness for the fact that more war and hatred grew from that day. I say it is time we truly honor those that lost their lives, by creating more peace and love in the world.

Let's Take A Moment

2011-09-01T00:06:00.000-04:00

Thank you Ms. Anne Hathaway for the recommendation:

Thank You Irene

2011-08-30T01:31:00.005-04:00

Silly fucking me thinking the passing of Hurricane Irene was all about me. I hope I make amends via bullet points.:

- Lives were lost after Irene's passing. The lost of loved ones is profound. I turn to author Breena Clarke, she was a tutor in my after-school program, because she wrote in River, Cross My Heart:

"Losing a loved one, a family member, is like losing a tooth. After a while, those teeth remaining shift and lean and spread out to split the distance between themselves and the other teeth still left, trying to close up spaces."

- Since I didn't have the distraction of the TV and the Internet, I was visited by the dark shadows that wanted to tell me lies about my life with Marcos.

I prayed and was reminded Marcos showed me he was better than okay, and that he and I were warriors in an unjust time. Yet, Marcos and I shared our moments of bliss.

I had to truly believe I was part of seeing Marcos' transition, to the after-this-life, in order to inform my journey in my life. Marcos gave me a divine kiss.

- Mother Earth is not angry about gay marriage. She is angry about two wars killing thousands of beings, BP spilling tons of oil into the ocean. My good people, know that that damage is still floating and killing as you read this.

- It is amazing we want to control nature, yet nature always wins. Shouldn't we hear her voice and find a way to be in harmony with her.

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Goodbye Irene

2011-08-29T14:41:00.000-04:00

So, Irene put on quite an impressive show for us in Hamden, CT. She took down a tree that was at least 70 years old. Luckily the house it landed on had minimal damage. She left all sorts of organic debris across my front lawn, and I haven't heard the birds singing in two days.

We are all okay here at home. I still had power throughout the experience, but no cable, phone or Internet service until about 20 minutes ago! I was jonesing people. It wasn't cute. But, it could have been worse.

I hope you all made out okay. And, let's hold on tight to see what else Mother Nature has in store for us this coming winter.

Goodnight Irene

2011-08-26T03:05:00.001-04:00

For those of you familiar with the title of this post, you may know where I'm going with this. In the world of wrestling and boxing, "good night Irene", is a term used to say that the less formidable opponent is going to be left knocked-out. Basically, it means lights out for that being.

According to the most recent news reports, folks in CT should be very afraid. This has resulted in The Home Depot selling out on generators, flashlights, batteries, etc. Moreover, bottled water and canned goods are selling out at local supermarkets.

Mother Nature is no joke. I'll prepare my best for the worst. What I have resolved is that come hell or high-water, Gino and Geronimo, my four-legged children, are coming with me. We shall face our fate together.

For V and Other Wonder Woman Fans

2011-08-24T14:27:00.000-04:00

I was a huge fan of the Wonder Woman tv show back in the 70s. Lynda Carter was so stunning to me. She embodied the character of Diana, a true Amazon warrior. I would spin around in my room, along with her, as she transformed into Wonder Woman a countless number of times.

Did ya know Lynda's mother is of Mexican descent? Also, Lynda speaks fluent Spanish. I would love to have seen an episode where Wonder Woman spoke in spanish.

Here she is recently talking about her relationship with her superhero past and a certain intense fan.

And The Beat Goes On

2011-08-21T22:20:00.001-04:00

I head back to work next week. This has been quite a long summer vacation for me. This is the first time in four years that I didn't teach during summer school. I really needed the rest.

This was also my first summer without Marcos. I had moments when I walked the streets with tears in my eyes. I then brought myself back by knowing Marcos' spirit is transitioning within divine light, remembering that I'm blessed, believing miracles happen everyday, and knowing things will get better.

I've also been assigned to a new school. I have mixed feelings about the change, because, my former school is going into major turnaround and I wanted to be a part of that process. However, the district thinks my bilingual skills are needed elsewhere.

I promised myself I will show up to the new school with an open heart and mind in order to give my best. At the end of the day I also know I will become immediately invested in the success of my new students.

I'm going to keep on, keeping on.

Damn You Writer's Block

2011-08-17T00:31:00.002-04:00

Okay, I need to do something to break this writer's block. So, here are some random thoughts to get my mind going. Hopefully this effort will lead to my muse showing up and doing her damn job.

- Michele Bachmann is the new Palin. She's about preaching intolerance and fear. She is a bowl full of crazy and is going to be a hoot. For example, today she wished Elvis happy birthday on the anniversary of his death (click here).

Biggest difference is she doesn't have that hot husband, but rather a queen of a man that will have his spot blown up! There is a rentboy chomping at the bit. Trust!

- Let me just remind you good people to never make a decision based on a negative emotion. By negative emotion I mean one that comes from a place where you feel fear, anger, frustration, or confused.

Instead make the emotional fuel of your actions come from love, hope, joy, and an empowerment that is not based on the oppression of another person or idea. However, if the person or idea is fake as Bachmann, let them have it.

The best sense of empowerment is knowing that your light has to shine because the world needs it in order to understand this mortal coil.

- Listen up Haves, the Have-Nots don't think it's cute anymore. There are more bubbles that will burst, and the nickel-and-dimeing drip, drip, drip, has made many a folk angry. Ya, better start building a reset button.

- I've been working hard to keep the novela in my head from becoming my perceived reality. As a being grown up in constant crisis, I need to no longer fear the other shoe dropping. Why? I'm a high-riding bitch that will take it on.

- I remain for ever faithful to believing that LOVE IS THE MESSAGE! You doubt it? Play and meditate through dance with this:

I Was Unfaithful, And I Might Do It Again!

2011-08-05T21:27:00.001-04:00

I was unfaithful the other day. Let me say in my defense, it was a matter of urgent need that lead me to stray.

I'm going to NYC tomorrow for a fab evening out and I needed my hair done. I went to my wonderful barber of five years and saw a sign saying he was on vacation! My Puerto Rican Afro was in full glory and I needed a serious cut.

I wandered a few blocks down and went to a competing barber. This was a challenge for me, because I really like my barber and we have a nice relationship. Alas, I had no other choice.

The barber did an awesome job! In fact I dare say he gave me exactly what I wanted, plus he offers full shaves as a service. Full shaves! Not a lot of barbers that do that these days. My regular barber doesn't.

As I left admiring my cut, all I could think about is returning so he can lather me up with hot lather from the machine, and using his single edge blade to leave my face smooth.

Dammit Bob! Why did you have to go on vacation. You see what you made me do!?

"Rocky Horror..." Brought To You By Boys Town

2011-07-30T00:23:00.002-04:00

Good people, the clips of The Rocky Horror Picture Show being shown on hulu.com are sponsored by Boys Town.

Boys Town provides "compassionate and effective care for today’s at-risk youth...through programs nationwide"

I gagged because I know one of the Boys Town's values is based on "supporting children and families in religious practices and values."

All I can say is that

a) folks at Boys Town didn't do their homework regarding being specific about what media content they wanted to sponsor

b) they have a gaggle of GLBT children in need of support and are reaching out to people that can roll with that

c) hulu.com drops sponsors where and when they need them, therefore, Boys Town is unaware of how they are being used.

I highly doubt scenario C, because I worked in mainstream media and all that shit regarding sponsorship is carefully calculated.

Watch some clips and see if Boys Town comes up. What is your take on this?

Amy's Turn At Metamorphosis

2011-07-23T16:18:00.000-04:00

Now Amy has her turn at metamorphosis. While she was here she was a brilliant and credible music artist.

Unfortunately, when she hit big, the powers that be made her believe she had to get on the hamster wheel. It took its toll on her, and magic powder and pills just made it worse.

She does leave behind music that will be cherished for a long time, here are some of my all time favorites:

This one breaks my heart:

She Fought For The Wrong Cause

2011-07-20T01:39:00.000-04:00

Don't fuck with her paper, aka money, or power. Murdoch's third wifey was not having it when some fool went to pie him in the face. Click here for the proof.

She made a choice in life whether to live it for purpose or power, and she chose to defend a sinister serpent that slithered for power.

A woman and her children have to eat. Then that woman has to live with how she fed herself and her children.

He will die. Your beauty will fade. All that will be left is the lessons you should have learned and the fight for truth you should have supported.

Alas, another life giving being, that forgot her gifts, fell victim to a man tethered to greed and power.

GLBT Teens Need Their Public Spaces

2011-07-13T19:24:00.000-04:00

Gaylings serving it on Christopher St.
As a teen I could NOT hangout in the neighborhood where I lived and be out and proud. It was just plain dangerous to do so. While I'm not crazy about us self-segregating, finding other people like me on Christopher St, in the West Village of NYC, was a godsend. However, these days GLBT teenagers can't catch a break in their own gayborhoods.

V, posted recently about folks over at Boystown in Chicago having issues with the young, mostly kids of color, hanging about at night. It seems the elders see a connection between increased criminal activity and the yungins. (Click here for the post)

And, Michael Musto blogged several weeks ago, about Christopher St. businesses and residents are having issues with the yungins, again mostly kids of color, that are allegedly engaging in scandalous behaviors in the neighborhood.

Even the Manager of Boots & Saddles, Rob Ziegler (see pic) is quite vocal about his fears. (Click here for the post)

GLBT kids are extremely vulnerable members of our community. It concerns me that these kids are being portrayed as dangerous. What they need is for us older folks to be more empathetic to this stage in their lives.

There has to be a way that we can create, in partnership with the yungins, safe public spaces for them to socialize.

Anna Got Dissed, And I'm In Fashion Bliss

2011-07-10T01:34:00.004-04:00

Good people, so the 2011 Fall Couture collections have been sent out into the atmosphere. It was very delicious for a few reasons.

1. Art once again strutted down the runway. I really enjoyed Armani's collection (see image above).

2. The first Dior collection sans John Galliano strutted and flopped. Yes, he was a dick for saying what he said. Booze and drugs is not your friend Johnny. Therefore, because of your caca mouth, you and the world of fashion must now suffer.

3. Azzedine Alaia turned it the fuck out, and Vogue was not invited. Click here for the slideshow. Azzedine and Anna Wintour don't likey each other. I have a feeling he once told her to chill with her dominitrix bullshit, and she gagged, then kept him from the pages of American Vogue for years! Meanwhile he sells like hotcakes to the rich women, of high society, with taste. Here is an example:

For the full effect click here.

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

2011-07-07T21:03:00.001-04:00

I just got rid of a temporary houseguest. I knew helping him out was going to be a mistake. Let's just say he was a bottomless pit of need.

Not a day went buy when he didn't hit me up for money or play the victim in one self-created drama, after self-created drama.

Meanwhile, he had no concern whatsoever for my own challenges.

Good bye, good luck and good riddance.

Lady Gaga Banned At East Village Gay Bar

2011-07-02T12:37:00.003-04:00

The 43 y.o. jaded me finds this contrived. She would have shocked me if her second album was acoustic

My friend Devon works in an East Village gay bar in NYC, told me that Lady Gaga is banned from being played on the jukebox.

Apparently the staff is not feeling her new music and so over having to hear it repeatedly.

When a customer violates this rule the staff ejects the song and gives back the patron his or her dollar.

I kikied when my friend told me this, and was shocked to hear that customers didn't revolt and leave.

Devon reminded me that the bar has some of the most reasonable drink prices in the E.V. Therefore, it seems affordable cocktails trump Lady Gaga.

BTW, doesn't it feel like the Haus of Gaga sits around the table and discusses what next shocking thing they can have her do?

Their creative process consists of them going into their Madonna, Grace Jones, Annie Lennox and 80s performance-artist archives.

Once they find something that makes them squeal they lather, rinse and repeat.

Putting It Together

2011-07-01T21:13:00.001-04:00

Good people, little by little, I'm getting things in order around the house. I didn't get a Summer teaching job, and took it as a sign that I needed to put my time and energy into revitalizing the house.

There's a lot more to go. My mother would gag if she saw the clutter. She would say at the top of her lungs, "I didn't raise you to live like this!"

With that said, I will keep on keeping on.

Marcos Is Part Of My Connection To The Stardust

2011-06-28T00:29:00.002-04:00

Good people, please don't get spooked by this. There are times that I hear Marcos say my name or walk through this house.

When Marcos' makes himself known, since his passing to the other side, I am not scared but rather grateful.

I'm trying to find the words to post about profound lessons I've learned since he passed. When it is honest those words will be posted.

I went to go see the Alexander McQueen exhibit with family, there was a moment we got to see the following. This hologram and music captures some of what I feel while Marcos' stardust pays me a visit.

The Origins of the GLBTQ Pride Movement

2011-06-13T22:48:00.000-04:00

Yes, the GLBTQ community has come a long way, but let's keep on keeping on! The love and education needed to liberate so many, does continue on. Hate and bigotry is always circling in order to take away freedoms that are divine given rights.

Good people, this documentary is mandatory viewing for every human being on this planet.

"When police raided the Stonewall Inn, a popular gay bar in the Greenwich Village section of New York City on June 28, 1969, the street erupted into violent protests that lasted for the next six days. The Stonewall riots, as they came to be known, marked a major turning point in the modern gay civil rights movement in the United States and around the world."

Click here to watch the documentary online.

And The Heavens Opened

2011-06-09T23:18:00.002-04:00

Good people, we had one fierce downpour here in CT. There was thunder, lightning, and everything frightening.

This all occurred during an award ceremony for students at my second job. As we were about to hand out awards the lights went out! Only emergency lighting went into effect.

We had to huddle up and pass out the awards, and eat dinner quickly in order to make the most out of the minimal light that came in through the foyer windows.

The cherry on this experience was me coming home to a power outage. Mother Nature done turned a bitch out.

I sat and waited. Suddenly I heard a neighbor across the street scream in totally jubilation. A bitch was lit once again! Halleloo.

A Cure For What May Ail You

2011-06-08T01:12:00.002-04:00

Anyone that has seen this and no longer finds it genius is a jaded bitch. There I done said it. Amen and hallelujah!

I send this out to Aaron who is not feeling feeling well.

L M N O P

2011-06-05T01:47:00.003-04:00

While working with the yungins I am reminded how new the world is to them. A great example is when I have to teach the alphabets and how each letter has a sound.

The tricky part is the vowels. In the english language they have two sounds (short and long), and get into this, some consonants have a hard and soft sound.

Let's play now with Ms. India and Elmo. However, make sure that a child learning the ABCs knows that L M N O P each have a separate sound. The yungins tend to muddle these letters together.

How This Chicken Got On My Plate?

2011-06-04T23:01:00.001-04:00

Marcos was and still is a godsend for me. Good people, the divine sent Marcos to me so I can know love, learn, understand and evolve.

Let me share this one experience provided by Marcos, a son of Obatala, that required me to be part of prepping a live chicken for dinner.

What I recall is seeing a live chicken in our kitchen on Warren St. Then the chicken having human hands end the its life.

I recall putting the chicken into a simmering pot of water, and plucking it completely. I then had to butcher the bird and go deep within its cavity. I was told how to prep the chicken by an elder, and at that point Allan checked out and another part of me took over.

I do not recall at all, how I ended up with a clean and gutted chicken. This city boy went into automatic-ancestrally guided-pilot.

I do recall taking the prepared bird and making a savory chicken soup. Everyone, but I, loved the soup. My mind was swimming in contemplation. I wasn't grossed out, just taking in how I saw this chicken went from being alive to soup in front of my eyes, and through the effort of my hands.

We all need to experience and know where our food comes from. Whether it is animal, fruit or plant. Our ancestors done did a lot to bring food to the plate.

Take this video in. BTW, it is humane, yet doesn't pull punches.

Cheated Out of a Barbie

2011-06-01T21:00:00.005-04:00

My sister Jenny so did not get the memo that informed her that when you have a gay brother into fashion, you are suppose to let him dress up and make you all sparkly. While I was lucky because I did get to play with her Barbies, she cheated me out of using her to play dress up.

Well, she did let me dress her up, once, for her 16th birthday. It was in December so she needed to be warm yet stylish. My cousin Eugene and I took her out for dinner and the World Trade Center way back in the 80s.

Her gift from me would be a complete outfit, from head to toe, bought at Unique, which was the trendiest store in the Village. It consisted of a turtleneck, bolero knit jacket and tartan pleated pants. Think Annie Lennox meets the Cosby kids. She ended up with three pieces that worked into her wardrobe and she pumped each item for points.

With such a successful experience you would think she would have had me by her side whenever she went clothes shopping. Yeah, not so much.

While she did always ask for my opinion whenever she came back from shopping, my nerves were kept in check, because she usually bought something cute. However, I was always left wondering if there was something shorter, longer, or at the very least in a different color.

I currently have a bone to pick with her, because she is yet once again not taking advantage of her access to the queens in her life.

My dear friend since high school, Devon, is an amazing designer. His sense of style is right on, and his work is always impeccable.

I keep telling my dear sister to commission my gay sistah for the occasional, frock, blouse, coat or jacket. Jenny will get a hot custom made garment, and Devon will make some coins. A win-win situation.

I guess I will have to settle with the fact she is a loving sister, an awesome mother, a warrior. However, when it comes to being my living Barbie, I just have to suck my teeth and roll my eyes.

Maybe I'll luck out in the far future when she gets a granddaughter. Ha! Who am I kidding? Jenny will snatch that little girl up for herself.

These amazing dolls are from the Byron Lars Barbie Collection. Click on dolls for a larger image.Click here for more.

McQueen At The Met

2011-05-30T22:38:00.000-04:00

After a brief postponement the family and I went to go see the Alexander McQueen exhibition at The Met.

I saw couture up close and personal. It was art. If you can please go see the exhibition. Don't be afraid about the long line, it moved really quickly.

Here's a video to tempt you.

Jeff's Turn At Metamorphosis

2011-05-27T23:28:00.002-04:00

Jeff Conaway died today. His sister says it was due to excessive prescription of pills and such. I'm sure she's right.

I remember him from Taxi and Grease. I thought he was so mad cute. I crushed on him hard. I do not consider him a great actor, yet I was always happy when his face showed up on the screen or tv. I wanted him to succeed.

When Jeff was on the exploitive show Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew, I felt sad for him. Jeff was being worked over by the demons of his past, and brief celebrity.

Now Jeff is at rest, and will cocoon and become a butterfly.

Molto tempo fa, in una galassia lontana, lontana ...

2011-05-24T20:43:00.001-04:00

Check out the sexed up Luke and Leia.

A Starchild Landed - This Is What She Does

2011-05-22T21:57:00.003-04:00

I found a good and goody blooger. She goes by the name of Tokimonsta, and her spirit landed on earth sometime ago. Her blog excites me and makes me smile. Click here to visit her blog. If you are doubtful, check out the music she makes below. This new child to earth is playful, and she gets inspiration from what was here before, now, and in the future.

Rapture II

2011-05-21T22:25:00.000-04:00

This is a very true story. So, I went across the street to see my niece and spend time with family. We BBQed because what better way to celebrate the Rapture. So, 6 pm came and the steaks were done.

I stepped outside of the yard to take a look at the sky and the image above is what I saw. What made it even more amazing is that the end of the rainbow looked as if it was landing on my house right behind those trees.

The family said to me, "Look what Marcos sent you." So on this day of Rapture, what I received was affirmation of life, love and beauty always being around us, and how blessed I am to be open to receiving it.

BTW, a flock of geese flew by a few minutes later in perfect formation. It was awesome.

Rapture

2011-05-21T15:54:00.000-04:00

So, at 6 pm about two million, faithful Christians, are going to big whisked away through the air to chill with god. While the rest of us stay down here and live in a plague filled world.

I like Blondie's version better:

TTFN Donald!

2011-05-18T00:22:00.001-04:00

I am sooooo hoping we dodged a bullet. A lot of folks dismissed Donald Chump as a contender, yet I remember Sarah Pain-lin's rise to 15-minute fame.

The Ying and Yang of Teaching: 8

2011-05-14T22:27:00.000-04:00

I recently posted about an anxious moment that enveloped me, after I encouraged two of my students living with autism, to participate in the town's science fair.

I wanted them to do well by being able to present their project. They needed to present to judges, convey they understood the scientific concepts, and take random questions.

This was a significant task for my two dudes from the fifth-grade, because conversation with others is a challenge for them. They both can go into their own world.

I am proud to say, they did very well. In fact they got an honorable mention! They said all the key points about magnetic forces, explain the procedure and outcome of their experiment, and referred to their display to highlight information.

Mind you, this was not a science fair for student with special needs. It was the science fair for the entire district! My two guys were the only young people with special needs at the event, and they held their own.

Fred's Beefcake Moment

2011-05-05T21:17:00.001-04:00

I always digged Fred MacMurray. I thought he played a cool dad in My Three Sons. He was charming in Disney films like Flubber and The Absent Minded Professor. Plus he turned it in Double Indeminity and The Caine Mutiny. I never considered him hot, but rather a solid actor that was handsome.

Then I saw this picture on Michael Musto's blog. I gag and have yet to come together. Who knew he he had a beefcake moment!!!!? (click on the image for a larger version. you deserve it)

Click here for other pics of the leading men of the 30s, 40s, and 50s. You will be pleasantly surprised.

He Can Dish It Out, But Can He Take It? Not So Much.

2011-05-01T11:35:00.000-04:00

I laughed that sorta of laugh that comes from deep down inside, when I saw the videos of Pres. Obama and Seth Myers snapping on Donald Trump. These men so laid into Trump that it was scandalous.

While I'm not one for public ridicule, Trump had it motherfucking coming. You have to see Trump seething in his seat. Megalomaniacs like Donald have no sense of humor when it comes to themselves. Trump gagged and will have to struggle in order to come together.

The library is open, let's start reading:

Anxious Teacher Moment

2011-04-27T20:20:00.001-04:00

I'm encouraging two of my students living with Autism to participate in the Science Fair. I truly feel they are capable of doing well, but I just had a panic attack about it.

I will have to guide them through the process. Truly make them feel confident with the material and concepts. The project focuses on magnetic force.

They also have to interact with visitors to their display. This is a significant area of development for both of them. I told them they will be teachers for a day. I know they can do it!

Happy Easter

2011-04-24T12:46:00.001-04:00

Happy Easter!

BTW, did you know the Easter bunny has its origin in pre-Christian fertility lore. The Hare and the Rabbit were the most fertile animals known and they served as symbols of the new life during the Spring season.

The bunny as an Easter symbol seems to have its origins in Germany, where it was first mentioned in German writings in the 1500s. The first edible Easter bunnies were made in Germany during the early 1800s. And were made of pastry and sugar.

The Easter bunny was introduced to American folklore by the German settlers who arrived in the Pennsylvania Dutch country during the 1700s.

The arrival of the "Oschter Haws" was considered "childhood's greatest pleasure" next to a visit from Christ-Kindel on Christmas Eve. The children believed that if they were good the "Oschter Haws" would lay a nest of colored eggs.

The children would build their nest in a secluded place in the home, the barn or the garden. Boys would use their caps and girls their bonnets to make the nests . The use of elaborate Easter baskets would come later as the tradition of the Easter bunny spread through out the country. Source: Holiday Net

My Spring Soundtrack

2011-04-21T12:09:00.000-04:00

Good people, it's been awhile since I shared what is turning me on sonically. Here are some tracks that are helping me take in the arrival of spring in a joyful way.

The Warning by Sepalcure: A nice track to get you going without amping you up too much. It has the layers and house vibe that I love.

Make It Better (Stylus Dust Remix) by The Knocks: I stomp to the bus stop while this track gets my mind, body and soul ready for my students.

Electric Feel by MGMT: This track has been out for awhile, but it's new to me. I came across the band while reading some shady remarks about them. Hey, it's has a nice beat, and you can dance to it. Plus, I like when DWB try to serve up some soul.

I Gagged Then Came Together

2011-04-20T11:46:00.001-04:00

I almost spit up my cereal with soy milk this morning. As I was checking out Dlisted.com I came across a post showing the disfigurement of Pete Burns' face. Good people, ya remember Pete right? He was the lead singer of Dead or Alive. He use to rock the eye patch and sang about being spun around and his heart going bang, bang, bang, bang.

He paid a lot of money and went through a lot of pain to get to these horrid results. I did see him several years back and saw the early stages of his new face. Silly me. I thought he would know when to say when.

This was Pete back in the 80s. The gown is not so great, but the face and hair are serving.

This is Pete now! There is nothing serving about this. What a shame!

Random Thoughts

2011-04-19T21:12:00.002-04:00

I have off this week from work. I so needed it. I really need some downtime and need to start tending to some long overdue tasks. Well, at the very least I hope I can get several things done. With that said, let me share the following:

- Until the probate process for Marcos' estate is completed, money is extremely tight. I decided to just roll with it and keep things afloat. In the big picture I am still a very fortunate person, and I don't want to create negative energy around me.

- Meanwhile, last week Tuesday I was down to my last $20. Later that day a friend told me my name was on a list the NYS Comptroller had put out of people that are owed money. Good people, that Friday a check for $635 came to my rescue. Click here so you can go and check for your name.

- I am missing Marcos. I find comfort in having yet another experience where he was able to let me know he was transitioning. This recent experience involved Marcos becoming cocooned and the message being metamorphosis.

- The next day I walked in on the social worker of my school providing grief counseling for two young students. She used the metaphor of a butterfly going through metamorphosis to explain what happens to people when they die. She knew nothing of my recent experience. I had to go to my office and sit down. Affirmations rock!

- I will be heading to The Met next month to see the exhibit of Alexander McQueen's creations at The Costume Institute. Anyone within five hours of NYC should go. It is going to be a scandal! Click here for a taste.

Pop Quiz! Put Your Books Away

2011-04-09T14:42:00.002-04:00

"The U.S. citizenship test is composed of 100 questions across five categories: American government, systems of government, rights and responsibilities, American history, and integrated civics. Ten questions from the 100 are chosen randomly for the test-taker. To pass, one must get at least six right. In its poll of 1,000 people, the Daily Beast rotated the questions. Beyond the topline—62 percent of Americans passed, 38 percent failed—there are huge discrepancies in the kinds of civic knowledge Americans collectively possess." Source: Newsweek

I took the test and scored a C+. Ouch! Give it a go and let me know what you earned in the comment section.

Click here for the quiz.

A Resource For Life-Long Learners

2011-04-04T21:54:00.002-04:00

I just found a new website obsession. The Metropolitan Museum of Art has a great resource for learning within the Heilbrunn Timeline of Art History site. I highly recommend the thematic essays. You will learn so much.

Click here to explore.

God's Hands

2011-03-30T19:56:00.002-04:00

My fifth-graders have been obsessed with this photo. I find it interesting, some of the most foul-mouthed, disrespectful, angry students have gone sentimental talking about God opening the sky. As one boy put it, "Mr. S, we have to be good now, because God is watching us."

I wonder how long the Godspell will last.

Dogs Can Be Gross

2011-03-27T10:13:00.003-04:00

Dogs can be grossed at times. I've seen Gino eat his own vomit and once ate a piece of Luna's poop! One day Luna was out walking with me and there was a dead suirrel on the road and she ran over to it and started to rub her entire body over it. WTF!

I came across this video that proposes an explanation for why dogs lick their human's face when he or she comes home. I love Gino to the tenth power. However, if he wants me to throw up a little, so he can eat, it is so not happening.

Born This Way

2011-03-22T17:01:00.000-04:00

Super Full Moon In Your Eye

2011-03-18T22:13:00.006-04:00

"Mark your calendar. On March 19th, a full Moon of rare size and beauty will rise in the east at sunset. It's a super "perigee moon"--the biggest in almost 20 years.

"The last full Moon so big and close to Earth occurred in March of 1993," says Geoff Chester of the US Naval Observatory in Washington DC. "I'd say it's worth a look." Source: NASA

Ya know I'm a happy star-gazing-loca. Lucky me. The night sky in CT will be clear on Saturday!

Good people, make sure you look to the sky on Saturday.

The narrator is mad mussy-boo-cunt. Love it.

The Never-Ending Story Of Our Journey

2011-03-17T23:29:00.009-04:00

Don't get it twisted, we have all been further activated. I send much love to my fellow atomic babies. Radiation has always been part of our unseen experience on this planet, and with the recent tragedy in Japan, the volume has been turned up.

Good people, the radiation in Japan has already hit the air and the sea.

With that said, follow Renee's advice and:

"Just go around giving people hugs and handshakes and telling them that you were glad they were here at the same time you were because it made life fuller."

It will get ugly as we pray for the cute. The poison will be in our water and food. Ripple effect in full effect.

When you get back to the god-source, remind the other lights that the life forms on this planet once consumed with respect, but then got selfish and consumed with no respect to maintaining a natural balance.

Please continue to live, love, learn and pass it on. When you transition from this earth-bound experience my hope is that your spirt can realize you did your Godly duty.

Heavy Times Require Enlightenment

2011-03-13T20:26:00.006-04:00

I'm just looking at what is going on in the world and truly gagging. What is really turning me out is how the earth is sending all kinds of messages that things are not right.

It was tragic to see the devastation in Japan. To see the tsunami waves, made thick by debris, consume fields of various crops and neighborhoods was just horrific.

My jaw dropped. All I can think was that nothing will grow of flourish there for decades. The land had been polluted.

Now, I read that radioactive vapor had to be released into the air from reactor 3, at the nuclear power plant. That vapor is in the air and will flow throughout the rest of the planet.

This development coupled with the tsunami hitting parts of the U.S. and South America truly show how connected and small the planet has always been.

As always, some are saying these are signs of the apocalypse. Nostradamus and Edgar Cayce have been credited with predicting not only the natural devastations, but also the recent shift of the magnetic pole.

According to what apocalypse theory you subscribe to, life on this planet will cease to exist or the human race will experience an enlightenment that bands us together to heal and do things differently.

I'm sending healing vibes out to all with the hope that we do things differently.

I Had To Kick Some Ass

2011-03-06T18:09:00.004-05:00

Image Source: Boys At Art

I had to stop and regroup this week. I've been very busy at times, and at a complete stand still the next moment. I'm not feeling very rhythmic. As a result, I let negativity creep in and trust me when I say it tried to do a number on me. Those dreaded dark forces wanted to make me feel inferior and afraid.

I spun around three times and started kicking ass. While my challenges are still there, I was able to get a sense of the direction I need to go, in order to handle what is in front of me. Work and life take no break except for when you are sleeping, and I'm not planning on going the Rip Van Winkle direction.

So I told the negative thoughts to "go fuck yourself" and I'm just going to keep on keeping on. I hope you all do the same.

Tio Johnny Doing His Thing

2011-02-26T21:50:00.007-05:00

This is my Tio Johnny. He has always loved to dance and has always been an amazing dancer. Back in the days of disco, he was something to behold. I think every young woman I knew always wanted a chance to throw down on the dance floor with him (and off *wink*). Aint he cute!?
He has never stopped dancing. Here are some pics of him hitting the floor with a dance troupe, that has as members, adults living with physical and intellectual challenges. I believe most members of this group are dancers that are living with Down's Syndrome. Aint she cute!?
Tio Johnny has always been amazing in my eyes. He's the uncle that always has something interesting to tell you about. He is an avid reader. Moreover, he's someone that is trying to live his life in a way that has a sense of humor and grace.

Random Thoughts In Haiku Form

2011-02-19T22:20:00.007-05:00

This image from Fischerspooner's album art has inspired me to do yet another round of Haikus. To read my past haikus, just search under haiku.

On teaching in an environment that focuses heavily on testing:

An NCLB Inspired Education

a young brain must thrive
wonderment no testing yes
child left behind

For Marcos:

From Lover to Starchild

soaring through the stars
thank you love for the visit
metamorphosis

Mother Nature is profoundly and ultimately in charge.:

Mami Nature

nurture her nature
took for granted mami's tit
bitter milk we drink

Past Grammy Moments That Stayed In My Head

2011-02-12T22:42:00.006-05:00

I will tune into the Grammy Awards tonight. Over the past few years they have really turned the award show more into a concert. Plus music folks are so much more interesting to look at, because they be crazy. Who can ever forget the Grace Jones and Rick James pairing way back when? That moment was a hoot.

Here are some moments that have stayed in my head over the years.

Marcos so loved this performance. We would watch Pink over and over again.

I was a huge Culture Club fan! I was home with my family watching and totally turned red when Boy George said "You know a good drag queen when you see one." As a closeted gay teen I felt exposed.

I remember feeling an emotional pain, while being soothed by their voices. I was just a kid. Wow! The emotions music can stir within a person.

Spidey's Tangled Web

2011-02-11T22:42:00.007-05:00

Julie Taymor must be having a fit these days. The past few weeks have not been kind to Spider-Man: Turn Off The Dark.

It seems critics got frustrated with the fourth delay of the official opening for the show. So, they decided to attend the Feb. 7th show, that was suppose to be the opening, as a night to see and review the show. Click here for the reviews. It is brutal what they had to say.

The show also got some bad press because full-ticket prices are being charged, and rumor has it that theatre does not provide signs to inform paying audience members they can ask for a refund or exchange on their tickets. And, the show was recently hit with two safety violations.

Then last night SNL had a kiki with the show's troubles with this ad:

After I read the reviews I was reminded of the moments that soared and flopped. In a previous post I shared that I saw the show, and expressed my optimism (click here), by hoping the people involved with this show can fix what ails it. After reading the reviews is seems very little was done to fix the holes in what has become a sinking ship.

The funny thing is that ticket sales have continued. I guess at this point people want to pay to go see what has become a sort of theatrical car accident. Bono and The Edge must be spitting nails!

Lacroix, Sweetie, Lacroix

2011-02-01T16:30:00.006-05:00

"Camilla Morton, fairy tales are taking a very fashionable twist. “It all started when I was trying to explain my job to my godson,” Morton says. “And, I realized when you watch a couture show come together — the drama, the glamour — you literally see magic.” For “Christian Lacroix and the Tale of Sleeping Beauty,” the first of what will be a series of fantasy designer biographies (Manolo Blahnik and the tale of the elves is up next), Morton has spun the story of Beauty, a starry-eyed princess condemned to wearing bland sack dresses." Source: NY Times

I love this idea. I need to look into this. The library I keep for my students is due for some new additions to the collection. I always look for books that are clever, have a good message, and of course superb illustrations. Take a look at what Lacroix has done below. Gorgeous!

Click on images for a larger version.

Millions Of People Excluded From Donating Blood

2011-01-29T20:06:00.005-05:00

However, the following need not apply.
The Red Cross has an eligibility criteria for donating blood, which is a good thing. They want to make sure that people are safe while donating and that the blood being collected is safe for distribution. This is all very sensible.

However, there are a few criteria items that when you look at it really are just fucking silly. The first being that their policy excludes gay men from donating. This is the line in the criteria for donating blood that keeps yours truly from being allowed to donate blood:

-- are a male who has had sexual contact with another male, even once, since 1977 (source: American Red Cross)

The list then goes on to say you are also ineligible to donate if:

-- have had sexual contact in the past 12 months with anyone that:

-- used needles to take drugs, steroids, or anything not prescribed by a doctor
-- is a male who has had sexual contact with another male, even once, since 1977
-- ever taken money, drugs or other payment for sex since 1977

Now, I have a question. Shouldn't this exclude a large segment of the population as well? The way I see it many men and women cannot answer this question with 100% certainty.

How many women engaging in heterosexual sex ask their partner(s), "Hey, you ever had sex with a man, pimped yourself out, or shot up?" I would guess less than 15% of women ask this question.

The same goes for heterosexual men. I would guess .02% of men have asked their female sex partners the same question. Most men are pigs and just need hole and a heartbeat.

So, when men and women are asked this by the nurse, in all honesty most of them would have to say, "Not that I am aware of." or "I've never asked that question of my sex partners." Thereby, making them ineligible because they don't know the answer.

Oh and if you are from Africa, or had sex with someone from Africa, you can just forget about getting juice and cookies on that day, after helping out the blood bank.

Am I wrong in coming to this conclusion?

BTW, thanks Todd for bringing up this issue, while still encouraging people to donate. You gave me a post item. Oh, and Todd I had another snowday on Friday (Todd just growled people.).

Couture Fix - Oh So Satisfying

2011-01-26T22:36:00.007-05:00

The couture collections have spread their magic. Click here to see what is next. Armani made me gag with these shimmering dresses that looked like electrically illuminated melted candy (see pictures above). I have to find the video to see how the garments moved.

Another Snowday - Chillin' with Andy

2011-01-21T15:45:00.006-05:00

Today, was my fifth snowday from work! Todd just growled a bit. See the thing is the majority of students in my district are bused to school, therefore, the slightest occurrence of inclement weather results in school being closed. At this rate we'll probably have the school year extend into July. So, don't be to envious people, I'm playing now but will pay later.

Anyhoo, I decided to watch on tv, Ovation's airing of the documentary Andy Warhol's Factory People for like the upteenth time. I'm fascinated with the stories and characters. To see the surviving members of that crowd share insights and stories is amusing.

My favorite story is the one about Andy having Bob Dylan sit for one of his "screen tests" and Dylan was cordial and sat for two hours basically not doing much. Just being all aloof in that rockstar sorta way in front of the camera.

The kiki of the story is that when it was all done, as Dylan left the Factory, he saw the silver painting of Elvis with the cowboy costume and gun drawn (see picture above). He grabbed the painting and said to Andy, "Hey man, I'll take this as payment." To which Andy just stared at him and turned "tomato soup red."

The scandal was that Andy thought he was alpha-art bitch, and he was so not ready for a contemporary that also thought he was alpha-art bitch. It gets better. A few months later Andy finds out that Dylan traded in the painting for a piece of furniture. The end result was that Andy and Dylan never "worked" together again. I find that hysterical.

Check Ovation's programming schedule for the next airing. It really is a fun and at times fascinating look into a modern mythical time.

Music Therapy - Old Skool Style

2011-01-16T00:51:00.013-05:00

Good people, today was rough. I found myself missing Marcos and then frustrated that he is not here with me. I actually argued with him by talking to the air. I allowed myself that moment. Then I remembered that he fought long and hard, but was ill. While writing this I remember how handsome he was, and that I would love to give him one long kiss.

I know find myself, like I usually do, going back to the past. Today's therapy required me to revisit the music that ushered me into being a hip-hopper. I'm just visiting, but not staying. I needed a jolt of the old, in order to continue to allow me to move forward. When I heard old skool hip hop I was never the same. I found a profound connection to my time and generation. I was 12 years-old.

So this is about feeling a connection and accepting the time I am living within. I know there are some former hip-hoppers navigating life just like I am. Aint that right Renee?

When I heard this song I realized I was a teenager! Gag on this. I first heard this song at a Christian church dance!

This song will influence my movement into loving and vibing off of House Music. Yeah, I know the song in this video is very techno, but the subject matter and sonic vibe brought me to appreciate the scene at the Paradise Garage.

I love this man's voice.

A Night With Spidey

2011-01-06T16:53:00.006-05:00

Intermission Time!

Okay so back in December I went to go see the Spider-Man musical! It was meant to be a night out with Marcos and my sister, alas, things sadly had changed.

I lifted m head up and went out to get back into life, and brought along two of my dearest friends that I've known since high school. Time with dear friends and a night out in NYC to see live theatre is just what my spirt needed.

Well, as many of you have read, the "Spider-Man musical" has been plagued with many problems. There have been canceled performances due to some scary moments that involved performers being injured. Most recently one of the actors that plays Spiderman fell over 20 feet into the orchestra pit when a restraining cable failed to break his leap. And, the lead actress playing Arachne, that suffered a concussion weeks ago, left the show this week.

Did someone connected to the show mentioned the Scottish play while in the house? It feels like the show is cursed.

What I saw that night was a preview and it's traditional to not offer a review while a show is in preview. It's just not fair. The directors, actors, musicians, et. al. are working out the kinks. So what I offer now is not a review but my own reflection on what I saw that night and that lingered with me.

- The proscenium is framed with this huge web that comes out into the theatre. Very cool looking and a perfect foreground for a comic coming to life on stage.

- When Spidey ran down stage in slow motion as the Brooklyn Bridge slowly ascended with Mary Jane dangling at the end, the audience cheered. I knew we were in for something new.

- Arachne descending from the heavens as she sang an ethereal song that told of her run-in with Athena was made even more surreal as the female members of the chorus swayed back and forth while dangling from long bolts of silk in order to weave a shimmering curtain. Genius!

- Watching Spidey fly above our heads was great fun. I gagged when he would land at different areas, because you can hear this thump when he landed, that let you know this was some serious acrobatics.

- The towering 3D televisions moved about the stage and illuminated the theatre to great effect. Seeing the Green Goblin 20 feet tall in techno-green while he taunted Spider-Man was particularly creepy.

- I admired the group of performers that really gave it their all. It must not be easy to try to get things right, while so many things have been going wrong. Great singing, great dancing, wonderful portrayals of their characters. America Olivio, the stand-in for Arachne, has a beautiful voice. The show must go on.

Okay, so maybe this was sort of a review. I guess I wanted to share that on that night I saw something that was really trying to take live theatre to another level. I wish all involved with the show the stamina and inspiration to make it work.

My Family of Choice

Sy Fy Fashion Fantasy Moment

2011-01-03T21:24:00.003-05:00

While dreaming about the future, I took a short glimpse into the past. I remembered how Thierry Mugler excited me about fashion with is vision and major fashion show productions. I even got to see one of his garments upclose and try on one of his necklaces when Willie Ninja walked for him back in the day. It made a then young gayling smile and feel fierce.

About 22 seconds into the video you will see Willie Ninja werk the Paris runway with his idol, the legendary Iman. I was so happy for Willie. He went from the projects of Queens, NY and served it in Paris and Russia along side a diva that he adored. Dreams do come true.

This is an amazing and fun fashion show extravaganza. They don't build shows like this anymore. Please note Thierry Mugler's fashion has become a major inspiration for many designers of today. He was really ahead of his time.

Happy New Year

2011-01-01T12:14:00.002-05:00

As Renee said in her blog "Like all the years before it, 2011 will offer the good, the bad, and the ugly." This is so true. As you know in 2010, I accomplished a major goal by becoming a certified special education teacher. I then lost Marcos who has been my partner-in-life for the past twenty years. Highs and lows is the natural flow of things.

I have resolved the following:

I will evolve my teaching skills to another level.
I will spend more time with the people I love and inspire me.
I will move forward from the profound changes in my life with love and grace.

Marcos whispered my name into my ear this morning. I smiled and it made him feel good. He's working his way to his next experience and I will do the same.

You take care of yourself good people. I wish you positive internal changes that will attract all that is beautiful in this life.

Glimpses Into The Past

2010-12-28T19:28:00.011-05:00

Todd over at Hell's Kitchen shared a major tip for folks that love photography. He had mentioned that the Museum of the City of New York has a great archive of photos of NYC. Yo! He was totally correct.

The Jacob Riis portfolio is heartbreaking. He really recorded the underbelly and poverty of NYC during the 1890s. As I looked at the photos I imagined the stories of each of the subjects. I was transported.

Here is just a taste of what you will find. Take some time to check it out.

Pietro learning to write
A young scrub girl
A dive bar circa 1890, called a black and tan
Young thugs out for no good, chillin' at their spot
A boy and his bootblack kit
These young girls were part of a team that reviewed election results.

Thank You Lady T - Go Back To The Divine

2010-12-27T16:44:00.004-05:00

Thank you Lady T for amazing music. Your music has served me well for many years. Here is one of the songs that always puts me in a good mood.

Fire and Desire that she did with Rick James, also has a special place in my heart, but it's all about Teena right now.

Dog Sings A Lullaby

2010-12-26T23:41:00.003-05:00

Gino has been such a godsend to me over the past several weeks. He makes me smile, motivates me to get up and get out each day, and to focus on getting things together. Dogs are awesome!

UPDATE: Gino ventured out this morning after the blizzard. Once he realized the level of snow was taller than him he turned around and headed back to the house.

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Santo Claus In Action

2010-12-22T22:54:00.007-05:00

Yes, Virginia, Santa is Puerto Rican

I went shopping for Christmas presents today. It was not for family or friends. I rubbed my belly and became Santa for a moment because of love I have for two students at my school.

While I was away buying beverages for a mini-Chinese Buffet I put together for all of our students that receive special education services, a parent called with an urgent request.

This wonderful mother that has been trying very hard to take care of her kids, with her husband, was laid-off and said to a my colleague over the phone that Santa would not be coming to her home. Their money was tight paying rent and utilities. Her family is part of the working-poor.

She called me because she knows I have been very kind and caring towards her children. Last week I sent a letter home praising the efforts of their son that is one of my students. I went immediately into action. Santo Claus to the rescue.

A fellow teacher came with me, because homegirl knows how to shop. We picked out a cute PJ set for the girl, and a slamming shirt with matching beanie for the boy.

My fellow teachers also went into action and we will have toys to give to mom and dad for their well deserving children.

Putting my love for others into action brought joy to my heart. I feel so blessed. I wish the same for all the good people that stop by and read this blog.

I know this story will emanate to those that you love. The blessing of this story will multiply and love within our universe will increase.

Ban Line Dances

2010-12-17T21:04:00.007-05:00

I just came back from the teacher's union holiday party. Let me just say that we teachers know how to party. What I loved is that it was truly a diverse group of folks, and we all got our groove on.

My only complaint is that we need to ban line dances. The only line dance that should still be done is the soul train line. Nuff said! Electric Slide was fun and cute like what 15 years ago. It annoys me when I get dragged out to do it. Uggh!

I rather see folks get out there and do their own unique thing. Way more interesting to watch and allows you to shine by contributing your own fierceness.

Nadia! We Should So Hang Out

2010-12-04T23:18:00.004-05:00

Nadia G came right on time into my tv viewing life. She is funny. Her food looks good. I so need to try one of her recipes to see if there is skill behind her glam over the top personality. Take a look at this teaser and tune her in. She done grew on me people

World AIDS Day

2010-12-01T21:36:00.005-05:00

Know your status by getting tested.

Love yourself and others by playing safe.

Stay healthy by getting treatment.

For all those that have lost their battle I lit a candle tonight in loving memory.

Thanksgiving with Ralph

2010-11-26T17:10:00.003-05:00

I cooked a ham and collard greens for my family-of-choice's potluck Thanksgiving feast. I got a lot of compliments and ate till I was stuffed. It was sad at times when I thought about Marcos, but I showed up and engaged.

Then at 2:30 am I had to run to the bathroom and begin to vomit to the point that I thought a lung would come out. Like Todd, I too have the stomach bug going around. No one else at the party got sick. Lucky me.

I am now making ginger tea with cinnamon and honey. I will keep on keeping on.

Connected Via The Divine

2010-11-14T21:56:00.006-05:00

I am about to share a very true story that happened today. As you know Marcos has recently passed. I am taking it a day at a time, but feeling more at peace thanks to the support of family and friends.

Hugs and kisses to my fellow bloggers that have expressed their support and sent me healing vibes. Thank you Aaron for what you expressed on your blog. Click here for the post.

So, back to the story.

I was walking Gino tonight and thinking about Marcos. I transmitted unknowingly to him that Marcos has passed. When we reached Marcos' car Gino stopped and would not move. I realized that he finally knew what has occurred. He looked around and sniffed the air and would look at me. Gino decided he wanted to go back home.

As we walked back I said a prayer and looked up to the stars and said "Marcos please tell me where you are."

I then heard a small motorbike coming down the street. I looked and all I saw was a huge bright headlight that lit up the entire street. On this tiny bike was a big guy that was way too big for the little bike. He reminded me of a clown in the circus. He was dressed in NY Giants regalia from head to toe.

As he pulled up next to me I saw a tiny license plate on the back of his bike that had printed on it Guarbo, Puerto Rico. Good people, tonight Marcos' ashes are at his parent's home in Guarbo, Puerto Rico. And, tonight his family gathered to offer him prayers so that his spirit continues its journey to the divine.

Meditate on the divine tonight and know that there is a cosmic connection that we all have access to and that will provide nourishment.

Marcos, I lit a candle at my alter for you tonight. I got your message and know that you are visiting your loved ones, and will be moving on. Seek the light and heal.